Affection Harvested in Autumn

He was the scion of one of the wealthiest mercantile families in a small industrial city in the Middle West.  She was the daughter of the descendants of the Irish and German immigrants who had populated the city in the 19th century.  Both received their grammar school educations at St. Benedict Catholic School, 13 years apart.  He went East for his high school education in private schools.  She graduated from the local public high school.

He went on to Yale, where he graduated in 1924 with a degree in engineering and where he was elected to the Torch Society, which honored the 10 outstanding juniors for their achievements.  He was also an exceptional athlete, especially excelling in track and field events, while also playing the offensive end position on two undefeated Yale football teams in 1923 and 1924.  In the latter year he was named to the nation’s All-America football team and voted Yale’s best all-around athlete.

She studied at the local state college for one semester, majoring in English, before dropping out during the Great Depression to work in order to help her large family.  She had wanted to be a writer, and in fact had written a novel during grammar school.

He was handsome and gifted and a sportsman.  She was beautiful and multi-talented and a sportswoman.  He was Anton Hulman, Jr.  She was my mother-to-be, Dorothy Cleary. Continue reading “Affection Harvested in Autumn”

Adieu, My First Kiss

I first spotted her while splashing around with friends in the large Elks Club swimming pool.  I still see her strikingly pretty face and that bright pink one-piece bathing suit with the skirt.  She is chatting with friends, waist-deep in the water.  A good swimmer, already with a clutch of ribbons in my drawer from swim races against other area teams, I dive into the water and swim under it, scraping the bottom of the pool.  I take a snaking route and soon go right past her legs, perhaps barely brushing them with my own.   I don’t dare surface.  Holding that long breath, I swim on, still snaking around the expanse of the pool bottom, until I’ve passed many other pairs of legs.  I come up for air only after I am safely shrouded by the other kids’ torsos between me and her.

I am 13 years old, and I am terribly girl-shy.  It is the summer before I begin high school, and God Forbid that I should speak with her. Continue reading “Adieu, My First Kiss”

“Are we safe here?” Remembering 9/11 in a College Classroom

It was a beautiful Tuesday morning, sunny and warm, when I reached my faculty office at 7:45 to complete preparations for my first lecture of the new semester.  As always, I was excited for a new year of teaching:  who would my students be, how would they surprise and inform me, how would my teaching evolve as I learned their personalities and levels of engagement.  Having introduced the course and myself to the class at our first meeting a few days earlier, I felt ready for my initial lecture at 9:30 that morning.

It was September 11, 2001, and I was in Boston.  Less than five miles away, planes were leaving Boston Logan International Airport on their routine schedules, many of them heading as usual to New York City.  As they lifted off the runway, these planes would fly low over my son’s new school, where he was in his first week as a high school freshman.

Classical music played on the radio as I focused on reviewing and making small changes to my lecture notes.  I became only vaguely aware at some point that the music had stopped, and that some news–of a crash or an explosion somewhere?–was being reported.  I worked on. Continue reading ““Are we safe here?” Remembering 9/11 in a College Classroom”

High School Homeroom

We were sitting around the family dinner table that night in late September when my father called for our attention.  Then, as easily as he might announce a family outing to a movie theater next week, he told his children that we were moving from Indiana.  To another state.  In mid-December.

I was horrified.  This could not be happening.

Dad explained that he had taken a new job at a major architectural firm in Minneapolis, starting in only a few weeks, and that Mom and the kids would follow him to Minnesota at the Christmas school break in three months.  In the interim, he would shop for a house for the family.

I was 15 and I had just begun my junior year in high school. Continue reading “High School Homeroom”

Father’s Day Fever

I was passing through the kitchen one night when my father, alone there, called me over.  Then he did something very unusual.  Well past the time when I thought such a thing could happen, he pickb5418bedbd5b9978cd81176259a0ddfa--fist-bump-newborn-photographyed me off the ground as if I was still a toddler and hugged me close.  Then, lips to ear, he asked me a secret.  “Tell me,” he said softly, so as not to be overheard elsewhere in the house, “that you will love me no matter what I do.”

I found his words more mystifying even than his lifting me off the floor.  I didn’t understand them as foreboding.  After all, he was my dad.  I remember pausing to try to figure out what he was talking about before I answered him.  Nothing came to me, and all I could think of to say was, “Sure I will, Dad.”

I was 10 years old. Continue reading “Father’s Day Fever”

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